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We started with successes and tied them to the ways in which we are handling the triggers we experience from self, with family and friends, work and other settings. Our focus was RELATIONSHIP. A highlight for the evening was celebrating our ability to reset ourselves and intense situations. A common thread throughout our discussion was the power of slowing down and resetting so that we give ourselves time to think about our options. STAND 2: Miracles from Molecules...What’s right that we can celebrate? Toll Taker...How did you choose to see the situation? Baby Steps...How did you break it down for yourself or others involved? Different people have different needs around stand two in terms of the amount of words, as well as the frequency and the intensity of recognition. This means being attuned to matching our energy to the needs of the recipient. This is related to the fire hose - sprinkler continuum mentioned in the previous session with Tanya Frasier. Pause to allow time for your words and feelings to come. Also pause to assure that the recognition lands (is received). This takes practice. Some practices people shared around Stand 2
STAND 1: Co-parenting challenges are real and addressing negativity in the midst of it is not helpful. It’s important to have conversations with other adults around how we might reset one another or groups so that it doesn’t come across as offensive or undermining. STAND 3: Think about the reset as a gift. Humor in the heat of the moment can diffuse. Then get back to being serious and giving clarity. Always remember we can add new rules! Some struggles with the kid who seeks loopholes. A reminder to notch up all three stands. Closing... At the end of the session, we set private intentions related to specific relationships we wanted to foster during the coming weeks. Topics for future meetings:
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