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We focused on clarity using a note taking sheet to outline values and intentions that underlie most all our responses. We attempted to focus on family successes as a way to identify the clarity that was in place for the success to occur. Clarity allows for safety, success and enjoyment. A participant introduced the opportunity for siblings to work through disagreement to share as an example. We discussed clarity around the expectation that the kids will work out the share of a toy or the toy will be put away for the day. In the process the parent is communicating a limit as well as trust that the kids are strong enough to solve problems. They are given time to come to agreement on how to share; they feel the success of compromise and collaboration and enjoy playing together. All of this can be energized (Stand 2) with appreciative recognition regarding the life skills demonstrated during play. If they don’t work it out in a certain amount of time, the Stand 3 reset (removal) of the toy is done non-energetically (Stand 1). Recognition of no fuss, sadness but no complaining when the rule is enforced sets up a new energetic field and a shift to focus on playing with other toys. Recognizing and discussing the clarity involved in successes allows us to think about how to get more clear in areas that are rocky. We want to think about how to increase safety (emotional and physical), success and enjoyment. Articulating what you want the event to look and sound like also supports clarity and allows the script to write itself because you can then describe what you see and hear based on the expectations you set up. We also talked about different personalities and being able to meet our kids where they are developmentally. Focusing on baby steps for ourselves and our children helps us stay in the moment and break things down. As always we are grateful for the group and the understanding that parenting is a process. |
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